Here's my tip about photos when doing a home exchange. (I really hope this doesn't offend anyone...but it might...so I apologize in advance!)
Make sure you are not exchanging with a bachelor. Or, if you are exchanging with a bachelor, make sure he's not a professional photographer! In our experience, bachelors tend to have a different idea as to what is needed in a kitchen to cook gourmet meals. Bachelors tend to not be so worried about the little details...like cobwebs in the pantry, spiders in the shower, propane in the tank for hot water, comfortable furniture and other little things like that. I could be completely wrong and this could have nothing to do with the fact that our exchanger was a bachelor (he does have a lovely girlfriend, who came on the exchange with him...I'm just not sure she had added "a woman's touch" to his house yet). But, I have to find some lesson to be learned, and this is what I've gleaned. In our next exchange, I will be looking for more feminine touches in the house photos!
Since our exchange, I have reviewed the pictures that were posted of our exchange house, trying to determine whether I should have seen some of the more rustic parts of the house. This is where the "don't exchange with a professional photographer" rule comes in. The pictures are beautiful. There was no real hint of what the house really had in store for us. Now, when I look at pictures for our next exchange...I know what to look for.
First picture posted on Exchange site...we assumed this was the front of the house...shot from the road.
Nope, this was the back of the house...shot from the fields.
This was the front of the house...shot from the road, by us. The house sat about 20 feet from the road...which had a lot of cars on it late at night...and they were very noisy! Completely unexpected for a country house. Notice, no lovely landscaping...no beautiful flowers.
See other pictures of the house that we took.
Trust me, none of these shots were included on the home exchange site.
In reviewing the pictures of your proposed home exchange, look at the details in the pictures. Are there any dark spots on the walls...could be holes...or other more unsavory things. Are there any full pictures of the kitchen or bathrooms? If not, could mean that only one wall of those rooms is "presentable" and the rest of the room...not so much! Look in the corners of the rooms...look at the tile work (is there any tile work?). Basically, just look really carefully. What at first appears to be a beautiful, romantic country home...could be just an old country house that needs lots of work! Which can be totally fine...as long as you are prepared!
Pulling up to your exchange home and thinking you must have the wrong house is not the best way to start off your exchange. In conclusion, don't be afraid to ask for more pictures. If there aren't any pictures of the bathroom(s), ask the proposed exchanged to send you some (ask for pictures of the shower). This way, you know up front exactly what the house holds in store for you!
Stephanie Irey is a retired lawyer who now owns her own business (Dream Dinners). While juggling her husband (of 22 years), her son (of 12 years), her business and her desire to live a fun and full life...she decided to take a two month break from her life and do a home exchange with a French family. She writes about her home exchange adventures and the lessons she's learned (and is still learning) in her blog,Jumping Off the Cliff. Note: Stephanie isn't a Home Base Holidays member (yet). Phew - the family's exchange partner with the 'carefully chosen' photos isn't one of ours! Although some of Stephanie's observations will not be shared by all home swappers, she makes some great points that are relevant to anyone arranging a home exchange, especially for the first time. We especially like Stephanie's take on home exchange and, reading other posts on her blog, she and her family have the right attitude to make ideal home exchangers, seeing the funny side in 'minor' domestic crises that might have others hopping on the first plane home!
I have to admit as a European I am a little scared of exchanging with Americans and finding my house judged as falling short of the mark. Living in a Victorian shack is either cute or inconvenient depending on your point of view.
It looks like their exchange partner wasn't good on full disclosure (eg the road) and but that there were also some cultural differences- eg the fridge/lack of air con.
I'm off to update my snag list!
Posted by: Hobiej | October 18, 2010 at 09:29 PM
Sadly, stephanie's inexperience was the problem in this exchange. The exchangers listing stated he was married. If she found out he was a batchelo before the exchange, THAT should have sent her running. The photo's were clear, IMO - this house was rustic. To have accepted a house for two months without photos of tge kitchen and bathroom was naive. France in the summer without a/c for an American???? Not a smart idea.
She got sucked in to the dream, which is understandable. But put the blame on her lack of research and experience rather than the other party's profession or marital status.
Posted by: Jeanette | September 18, 2010 at 03:55 PM